Never Give Up – Don’t Listen to The Haters

Haters Will Make You

I came to the US broke, unable to speak English, with zero confidence in myself.

I had only $5, two shirts, and one pair of pants in the tiny suitcase you see in the picture. I was extremely shy and timid.

Because of my inability to speak the language, some people assumed I was stupid.

As a janitor at the 163rd Mall in Miami, I freaked out whenever I would see a security guard. I was afraid they might working for immigration.

One day, I saw a girl that I had gone to school with in Haiti. She looked the other way so that other people would not see her talking to a janitor.

I went to McDonald’s hoping to get a job to pick up trash in the parking lot. They turned me down because I couldn’t speak English. Go figure! I didn’t know the trashcans spoke English.

Later, I went to Total Bank in South Miami and begged them to let me wash their cars. After many rejections, one man said yes. I did a fantastic job!

Suddenly, I became the “car guy” in the parking lot. I remember looking up at the top floors in between car washes and saying to myself, “I would love to go up there as a janitor.”

I went to McDonald to get a job to pick up trash in the parking lot. I was turned down because I couldn’t speak English. Go figure! I didn’t know the trashcans spoke English.

Later, I went to Total Bank in South Miami. I begged the people to let me wash their cars. After many rejections, one man said yes. I did a fantastic job!

Suddenly, I became the car guy in the parking lot. I remember looking up at the top floors in between car washes and said to myself, “I would love to go up there as a janitor.”

Four years later I’m now in Atlanta. I managed to get at the Kmart warehouse loading boxes. One year later, I got my CNA (certified nursing assistant) license. I worked as a companion for a Jewish man. After he died, his family help me get a job as a doorman at the Waverly Renaissance Hotel. I was there for 14 years.

As I was parking the cars, I would notice some motivational and business books in the back seats. I bought them and devoured every word on the pages. One of them mentioned speaking for a living. I said to myself, “I want to try that speaking thing. Why not?”

I told a guy who was my supervisor that I was going to become a motivational speaker and write a book. Well, it turned out that he was a hater.

He said, “With your Haitian accent? Man, no corporation would pay to listen to you. You have no credentials.”

I told him I was not asking for his permission and approval to be a motivational speaker and author. God already approved me the day I was born.

However, his stupid remarks triggered a lot of doubts and fears in my head anyway.

Fortunately, I saw this motivational speaker on TV motivating people in this country. I said to myself, “Shoot! If Jerry Springer can motivate Americans, I can do it too.”

Fast forward today. I am the author of three books. I won the Writer’s Digest award for one of them. Indeed, many Fortune 500 corporations have paid to motivate and boost the morale of their employees.

A few years ago, the Napoleon Hill Foundation booked me to speak at their annual event. Guess where that event was held?

At the McDonald’s Headquarters! Yep, the guy who couldn’t get a job to pick up trash at the parking lot of one of their stores in Miami.

Oh, by the way, the Chairwoman of Total Bank heard saw me on television talking about washing cars in the parking.

She called and invited to speak at their breakfast for the senior leaders.

Yep! The event was held on the very top floor. I’m having goosebumps as I typed these words.

I took the time to write this long post to inspire you and stir your soul. If you happen to be in a comfort zone, I want to disturb you and disrupt your complacency.

Don’t ever let the haters and losers predict your future. You don’t need their approval and permission. They are not your makers.

Instead, get rid of them. While you are at it, purge some so-called friends as well. Go on the journey alone if you have to. The thing is, you won’t be alone for too long. There are plenty of winners waiting to cheer you up. Don’t look back.

Finally, I’m not sure what’s the top floor for you. But, here’s what I am 100% sure of: With hard work, resilience, and positive expectancy, you are guaranteed to get there.

Don’t doubt yourself. It doesn’t matter how old you are. It doesn’t matter how long you have been trying. Keep pressing on! Hold on to your dream! Don’t give up! Keep climbing!

How To Break Bad Habits And Create Powerful Ones – A Surefire Way To Do So

How to break bad habits and create better ones so you can achieve the success you want. We all have some bad habits that are preventing us from realizing our dreams. And those habits unconsciously creep on us. By the time we notice the habit, it’s already been formed.

Many people struggle in life and at work because of the habits that sneak up on them along the way. Have you ever wonder why someone is so successful in the workplace while others remain stuck in one position at the bottom of the ladder? It’s because that person develops some terrific habits of productivity.

The bad news is, it’s really hard to break those bad habits. Yes, it’s easy to form them. After all, we were present when we created them. There was no pain involved.

On the other hand, a good habit is rarely created on its own. It takes efforts to form them consciously. Fortunately, there’s a proven and scientific way to break those bad habits. That is exactly what this video is about.

Okay, why is breaking bad habits is so critical? Well, think about your future self. The habits you create now will most definitely dictate the quality of your life tomorrow.

Whether you agree with me or not, you are going to be 50, 60, or 70 years old. There’s no way around it. You will get old. You need to be kind to that 60 years old you. Be considerate and thoughtful. Be mindful.

If not, you will eventually end up living in regrets. You will be disappointed. You will live with a life full of resentments.

Nothing is sadder to meet a grumpy old man full of regrets moaning, complaining, and making excuses. He is blaming people, things, and circumstances. It’s the wife’s fault. It’s the government. It’s the boss. I mean one excuse after another.

How Habits Are Formed

To form a habit, it takes a trigger, behavior, and a reward. The trigger prompts you to take an action or behave a certain way. Then you feel good or great depending on the action. Every behavior has a good intention. Yes, I do mean every behavior. Even when the behavior is evil, the intention of the behavior is to reward the person.

There are two kinds of triggers. There’s the hot trigger. There’s the cold trigger.

The hot trigger is associated with instant gratification. Simply put, you get a reward instantly. You open the refrigerator and you see the ice cream. That’s a hot trigger. You then consume the ice cream. Then you feel good. You get rewarded.

How about a cold trigger? Now, we are talking about delayed gratification. You get the reward later. Let’s say you are driving and you hear an advertisement on the radio for something you are interested in. The announcer mentions the website.

Well, you cannot go to the site because you don’t have a computer and internet access right there. That’s a cold trigger. You will take the action and get the reward later.

The Habit Loop

So, the sequence of the trigger, routine or behavior, and reward is called the habit loop. It always happens in the same sequence without fail. Do you see how is you can create some bad habits without being aware of it?

How to Break Bad Habits

Okay, we talked about how we form those bad habits. How do we break them for good?

The answer is easy. Remove the triggers. Don’t put ice cream in your refrigerator. Make sure your environment is without hot triggers.

How to Form Good Habits

To form good habits, you need to learn how to turn your cold triggers into hot triggers. As I just mentioned, if you remove the alcohol or ice cream, they automatically become hot triggers.

Now, you have to get dressed, get in your car, and fight traffic to get the ice cream. All those steps might discourage you. Also, the reward is no longer instant. Since we know the brain is wired for instant gratification, it will find something else to reward it.

Keep this in mind, this is your real life. You are not on this earth to rehearse this life. Some people live as if they are coming back to do it for real. That’s pretty sad. That’s why I’m imploring to start breaking those bad habits as soon as you.

How To Be Positive In Life And Happy In Spite Of The Difficult Times


In life we always have choices. We can choose to focus on the negative or the positive. No one can take away that power from us.

Unfortunately, a lot of people choose to focus their energy on what not working versus what’s working. When the difficult times arrive, they choose to give them the wrong meaning.

Our lessons and gifts in life don’t always come as chocolate covered ice cream. Sometimes they come as a rose stem full of thorns. It’s not until we accept the thorns and plant the stem in the water of faith, the rose begins to unfold.

Some people would ask me if I’m always happy and fired up. They think because I’m a motivational speaker, life is always amazing for me. No, I’m not always Mr. Motivator. I have had moments of despair, worries, and uncertainties just like everybody. That’s called life. Please watch this video and you will see what I mean.

3 Ways to Zap Mediocrity & Create a Culture Of Excellence Around You

In life, you will always get what you tolerate. If you tolerate mediocrity, you will get more of it. If you tolerate others to behave a certain way, they will continue to do so until you put your foot down.

If you are an entrepreneur and some of your employees are mediocre, you need to stop tolerating them. If you don’t, they will eventually ruin your business. They will cause your good customers and employees to leave.

Simply put, pay people for excellence instead of lousiness. Reward excellence instead of mediocrity.

If you are a boss and some members of your team are unproductive and mediocre, don’t tolerate them. They can slow down your team members.

Now, I’m not asking you to go around and start firing people. If you think about it, most people have what it takes to be excellent. They have the internal resources to show up and perform at their best. They just don’t know how to access their available resources.

That means your first option is not to get rid of your underperforming team members. Instead, you should help and empower them to raise the bar of excellence on themselves.

The best way to do so is to first raise the bard on yourself. You have to model excellence for them. You also need to coach and train them.

In this video, you will discover the three ways to make sure everyone performs with excellence.

How To Motivate Yourself and Keep A Positive Attitude Daily

Being negative is our default. If you want to be positive and happy, you will need to work at it daily. I want to share with you the right triggers to psyche yourself so you can trigger your happy button.

The last time I had an interview, the lady asked me if I’m always pumped up, motivated, and happy. The answer is a big NO. There are times when I’m in the basement of life. Life is not always peachy and exciting for me. And I’m not alone.

The gurus, preachers, thought leaders, and motivational speakers you see out there have their own share of struggles just like everyone else. They are humans. They face the same challenges we all face.

The only difference is, somehow those preachers, teachers, and speakers believe they have some form of control over their situation. They have the right attitude about life. They know there’s always something they can do to improve. In psychology that is called locus of control.

Refuse Be A Victim

The reality is, the moment you realize there’s nothing you can do to overcome your current challenge, you are in trouble. You become a victim. And your victim attitude will cause you to remain stuck.

If you believe you have control, your mind will work overtime to come up with the right solutions and possibilities. You become the captain of your soul and the master of your destiny. The glass is half full instead of half empty.

You might be thinking to yourself, “Well, I don’t have any control over the way my husband, wife, or coworkers behave. I can’t change them.” You are right. People are going to be who they are regardless of your desire to change them.

But, I want you to know you still have some control. You can choose your reaction or the way you respond. You were born with that freedom. No one can take it away from you, even if you were behind bars in a prison cell. That’s right. You can still choose to react or respond to your circumstances the way you want to.

I know we are living in a world that can be very depressing. I also know we are living in the most exciting times in history. There are also so many things we can be happy about. It all depends on our focus.

If you wake up every day and start looking for what’s wrong with this world, you will find what’s wrong. On the other hand, if you wake up and start looking for what’s right, you will see what’s wrong. It’s that simple.

How to do you make sure you are always looking at the sunny side of everything? Is it possible to be happy and motivated with so many television stations broadcasting the bad news?

The answer is, YES!

Being negative is easy. All you have to do is to wake up. You don’t have to do anything. You will be sad, depressed, and happy. Other people in your environment will contribute to your dissatisfaction.

Here’s How To Be Happy And Motivated

To be positive and motivated, you will need to work at it. It’s not automatic. Every morning, you will need to work on yourself before you start interacting with others.

Start your morning with empowering rituals. Exercise, pray or meditate, listen to some powerful and uplifting music. Have some daily mantras. Tell yourself that today is going to be a FANTASTIC day. Remind yourself how lucky you are to be alive. Keep repeating your mantras through the day.

I know that sounds so trite. You probably say to yourself, “I heard that before. Nonsense.” But, can I ask you a question? Are you practicing that every day? You see, common sense is not common practice.

I am practically showing you how to mess with your mind instead of letting it mess with you. If you dismiss what I’m sharing here with you, that’s your mind messing with you.

I challenge you to start your day with a great exercise program, pray, meditate, read your affirmations aloud, and listen to uplifting music.

You WILL have a superb day. You will be a lot happier. You will have a much better attitude to face the day and negative people in your environment.

Conflict Resolution: An Insanely Simple Way To Resolve Drama In The Workplace

Have you ever had to put up with some drama or office politics in the workplace? Is it with your boss or a coworker?

Let’s see; you spend about eight hours in the workplace for five days a week. That means you spend more hours with your coworkers and bosses than with your own family. Right?

Don’t you think you deserve peace of mind during your work hours? I think so.

It’s all about teamwork. It’s about getting along with your coworkers or bosses to get the job done. When there are fighting and tension at work, nobody wins. Morale is low. Productivity goes down.

Now, there are many books and training out there on conflict resolution. But, I don’t believe conflicts are that difficult to resolve.

With this simple strategy I share in the video, you probably don’t need any conflict resolution training, mediation, or outside intervention.

In most cases, we can solve a conflict by acknowledging there’s a problem and we need to resolve it. Simply put, communication is key. The silent attitude is not a solution.

Conflict or bullying is about pushing and resisting. People are wired to push and resist. They need conflicts to thrive. When there is nothing to push, they feel weak and powerless.

Admittedly, we need to conflicts to grow, learn and expand. However, when the conflicts create too much stress and drama, we need to do something about it.

So, don’t wait for the situation to get better on its own. Take the responsibility to resolve the issue.

My nephew came to me for advice to deal with his aggressive and pushy boss. I shared a strategy with him. Three days later he sent me a text message to let me know the boss made a 360-degree turn.

That’s exactly what I want to share with you here so you can resolve all your conflicts.

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