There are times when you have the drive to keep pressing on. But somehow, you feel stuck. You just don’t know what to do. Your knowledge seems to be limited. That’s when you embrace the concept of duplication.
When you think you reach your limit, you start modeling success. Pause your ego and ask someone for help. Study others who are succeeding. The reality is, you already have the know-how inside of you. When you learn to duplicate, you are simply looking for winning ideas to spark your internal genius.
No matter what you are going through, millions have already gone through it. They figured out how to overcome your particular challenge. You can reverse engineer their success. You can do so through books, coaching, or mentoring.
Don’t reinvent the wheel. Success leaves clues. Find them. In this video, I reveal to you how to tap into the vast reservoir of knowledge that is waiting for you.
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There are times when you feel like you are doing and doing without anything to show for your efforts. You are running the rat race.
It may be in your workplace, your business or relationships. Things are not progressing.
You look at your skills, degrees, and accolades. You have no evidence to back them up. If your life were a scale, your knowledge would weigh tons and your assets would weigh ounces.
So, what do you do? How do you stop going through the motions?
3 Ways To Escape The Rat Race
1- Gather And Store NEW Seeds
Have you ever seen how the squirrels are so busy during the warm seasons gathering seeds? Why? They are storing for the bad seasons when they can’t get out.
You need to do the same. In your case, I’m not talking about seeds. I’m talking about knowledge and wisdom.
Notice how I say to gather NEW seeds. It’s because I know you already have some knowledge. But during these times of unprecedented and disruptive change, you need to upgrade your mind. You need new skills.
Let’s face it. None of us were ready for this new world we are.
You cannot afford to be a dinosaur. You must renew your mind. You must become another you to deal with your current challenges. You have to start flooding your mind with new information.
Read Lots of Books.
Most people are not reading anymore. They prefer to either watch a short video online or read a blog post. The problem with that is not enough depth into the subject. And the information tends to be unorganized.
Let’s say you want to learn how to boost your self-esteem. You need to read a book that goes deep into the subject so you can take note and apply what you learn.
That said, I suggest you start reading personal development books. You want to start getting better so your situation can get better.
When you get better, everything gets better. Your business, performance in the workplace, and relationships automatically improve. It’s like magic!
Here are a few of the classic books on personal improvement I recommend:
Of course, I suggest you read my book Kick Your Excuses Goodbye. People from all over the world tell me how it transformed their lives.
Next, you want to start upgrading your current skills so you can stay relevant. Attend some seminars. Enroll in some online classes. There are many of them. Checkout www.lynda.com. There you can master pretty much anything you want.
Finally, get a coach or mentor. You are never too smart to get a coach. The best athletes in the world have many coaching. The billionaires and millionaires have coaches. The presidents of countries have coaches which they call advisors.
2- Protect and Defend Your Territory
As you begin to get better in every area of your life, there will be those who will try to deter and distract you.
I’m referring to the jealous people, the player haters, and the negative people in your environment.
Do not allow them to slow you down. Take an oath of allegiance to protect and defend yourself against those enemies. Don’t let them invade your territory
Think of it this way: If you work hard and save money, don’t let someone steal it. Your attitude, knowledge, and skills are your intellectual capitals. Protect them. Here’s how to protect them:
3- Clear Your Dead Stocks
Dead stocks are outdated merchandises in the retail industry. They diminish the value of the other merchandises. Therefore, they have to get rid of them.
It’s the same for you. You have friends and family members who are dead stocks. Get rid of them.
They are those who tend to put you down, discourage you, and make you feel less of yourself. Those people can destroy you physically and morally.
You need to surround yourself with cheerleaders, encouragers. And those who are fans. They are rooting for you. They want you to succeed. They are contributing to your wellbeing. They rekindle your spirit. They inspire you to dream bigger.
Simply put, do not keep around those you are barely tolerating. Make a list of all the people you spend time with and start checking off some names. Take a break from them to working on yourself and your dream.
I’m not talking about hating or getting even. No. In fact, you should never badmouth anybody.
Be kind about the way you begin to get rid of your dead stocks.
When you are in a conversation, and the name of the person comes up, always say something positive and uplifting.
What I’m trying to convey to you is this: Your situation will never improve until you improve. Change your circumstances require personal change. When you change, everything changes instantly.
However, you need to protect the new you from predators and miserable people.
We all have suspicions. It’s in our nature. We tend to think someone or something is undermining our success.
We go from suspicions to blaming and excuses. If your business is struggling, you might believe that it’s the economy or the competition.
Blaming is a victim mindset. That’s giving away your power to act.
Many people come to me for coaching. They often come with a list of reasons for their situation.
They are stuck and frustrated because someone is doing it to them. In reality, nobody is doing anything.
It’s our reaction that determines how we feel about the events.
People are always going to be mean, inconsiderate, or jealous. But, that does not make them responsible for how we feel.
We have to accept responsibility for our results, good or bad.
So, if you don’t like the way things are going for you, take responsibility to change them. How do you do so?
The beginning of personal change is the end of blaming and excuses.
That’s right. It’s amazing what happens when you change. Everything changes instantly. Your situation improves.
The irony is, even when everything else remains constant, your condition will improve.
The economy is going to be bad or good. Your boss will behave the same. Your company will continue to introduce and implement new changes. The services or products you provide in your business will be the same.
In spite of all that, your finances get better. Your boss behaves differently. You embrace the changes in your workplace or personal life. You attract more customers to your business.
That’s is so awesome!
You don’t wake up and hope the economy would get better. You don’t complain, blame, or make excuses.
Instead, you start taking the different actions every day. You have a new philosophy or perspective on life.
You no longer curse your problems. You realize you cannot get to the next level of success without problems. Suddenly, challenges become your assets.
Simply put, personal change is the catalyst for significant improvement.
By the way, you might be thinking it’s hard to change. Right?
Au contraire, it’s a lot easier than you might imagine. It all begins with personal development.
Personal Development Unlocks The Door To Abundance.
You make a conscious decision to upgrade your mind. You do so, by reading lots of books, seeking out coaches and mentors.
If your relationship is heading in the wrong direction, you buy books on how to improve relationships.
If your business is going down, you get some books on marketing and finances. You attend some seminars. You hire a coach.
Do you see how easy it is?
Most people never grow. They continue to repeat one year over and over.
Yes, they may say they have been in business for 20 years. However, they have been practicing one year for twenty years.
In conclusion, I encourage you to start accepting personal responsibility right away. Decide to change your mindset. And watch how all the areas of your life will transform.
Have you ever had a time when you wanted to give a friend or a co-worker some negative feedback, but you are apprehensive? You don’t know how they are going to interpret it?
If you are in human resources, you may know exactly what I mean.
You toss and turn at night wondering if you should offer your feedback.
Has this ever happened to you?
Well, it doesn’t have to be that tough a decision. There’s a way to do so without friction or hard feelings.
If you sincerely care about people, you should face your fear and give them negative feedback with a compassionate heart.
Let me share with you why.
We are experiencing some unprecedented changes. This world is radically different.
We cannot afford to remain the same and expect to survive and thrive. It’s going to require a new you to overcome today’s challenges.
We must reinvent ourselves. The question is, how to do you do so? What would it take? The answer is simple:
Yes, to be a better leader or manager in the new era, you need constant feedback. That’s how we improve.
You must realize that no matter how great you are, there’s room for improvement. Feedback is the mother of innovation and reinvention.
Yes, I know some people are arrogant. They think they know everything. That’s sad.
Arrogance is the brutal enemy of personal and professional growth and progress.
Those who think they have all the answers are fools.
Mastery is impossible without constant feedback.
Let me share with a simple formula to share negative feedback.
The Secret To Sharing Negative Feedback Without Offending Others
The formula is PSP. P is for Praise. S is for Share. And P is for Praise again. Now, let me break it down for you.
1- P is for Praise
People can be very sensitive. The reality is, we all have an ego. We can get easily get hurt.
You must praise and elevate before you anything negative. Think of it like driving on the road and you are coming up to a big pothole.
You have to prepare yourself by slowing down and proceeding with caution.
The negative feedback is the pothole. The praise is your way of proceeding with caution.
You simply say something like, “Suzie, you’ve been a fantastic member of our teams. I love your positive energy. Last month we were late and almost missed our deadline. But, you rescued us.”
Notice the specificity here.
There’s Magic In Specificity
It’s not enough to say, “You are great.” Tell the person specifically what makes him or her great. The more specific you are, the more impactful it will be.
You are boosting the person self-esteem before you give the negative feedback.
2- S is for Share
Now you are ready to deliver the negative feedback. You say, “There’s an issue we need to work on.” Do you see how I use the word we?
Now, you are ready to share the issue. But there is just one small catch.
Always Disassociate The Person From The Negative Behavior
The person is never the behavior. I’m sure we all have issues. But bad habits don’t make us bad people.
Unfortunately, most times our relationships are with the bad behavior instead of the person.
As an example, let’s say a person is a liar. We tend to develop a relationship with the liar. We listen to the liar. So, we know a person for twenty or forty years. But, never actually never meet the person.
All right, how do you disassociate the person from the negative behavior? How do you let the individual know his or her poor performance is not who they are?
Gesture away when you share the negative feedback. When you do so, you automatically send a signal to the person. You are saying the person is not the behavior.
Although, I strongly suggest you emphasize it. Gesture away. Then you say, “This is not like you.”
3- P is for Praise
Okay, now that you share what’s on your mind, it’s time to elevate again. Here’s my best advice to you.
Never Walk Away From Any Conversation Without Leaving The Person On A High Note.
Here’s something to keep in mind: When you praise, you elevate.
When you share the negative feedback, you tend to bring the person down. That’s why you end on a high note.
The high note is much better if you future pace the person. Let me explain.
Feedback is the past. To move forward, we have to focus on the future.
You ask a future based question by saying, “By the way, what is your vision? Where do you see yourself in this company? Is there a position you would like to occupy in the future?”
Once you hear the reply, say, “Excellent! I can see you as the regional manager. I’m ready to help you. Let me know if can share any resources or information with you.”
Can you imagine how great that feels? That’s your way of communicating you sincerely care.
Use this PSP formula in your workplace and personal live. The impact is the same.
Maybe it’s your best friend who has been behaving weird lately. It may be your kids or significant other.
With this approach, you never have to feel awkward again. In fact, your friends, family members or co-worker will think the world of you.
Simply put, I’m arming you with a powerful psychological weapon. Except that in this case, you use this weapon to build instead of destroying.