Point #2 Duplicate: How To Find The Right Resources To Get Unstuck

There are times when you have the drive to keep pressing on. But somehow, you feel stuck. You just don’t know what to do. Your knowledge seems to be limited. That’s when you embrace the concept of duplication.

When you think you reach your limit, you start modeling success. Pause your ego and ask someone for help. Study others who are succeeding. The reality is, you already have the know-how inside of you. When you learn to duplicate, you are simply looking for winning ideas to spark your internal genius.

No matter what you are going through, millions have already gone through it. They figured out how to overcome your particular challenge. You can reverse engineer their success. You can do so through books, coaching, or mentoring.

Don’t reinvent the wheel. Success leaves clues. Find them. In this video, I reveal to you how to tap into the vast reservoir of knowledge that is waiting for you.


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Point #3 Defend – How To Protect Your Mind From Negative People

This is point #3 from The 3D Blueprint For Thriving Through Tough Times. It’s about protecting your mind from negative people so you can have peace.

Most people in life are positive. They are fun and pleasurable to work and live with. However, there’s a small percentage of the people who can be very negative and toxic.

That does not make them bad people. A behavior is never the person. Those people have good intentions. It’s just that their computers (minds) are infected with viruses.

The goal is not to try to fix them. It’s rather to understand why they behave the way they do. The way they behave has nothing to with you. They are who they are wherever they go.

Simply put, don’t take it personally. The mean and negative people are not targeting you. They are living their own drama.


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How To Stop Going Through The Motions And Escape The Rat Race

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There are times when you feel like you are doing and doing without anything to show for your efforts. You are running the rat race.

It may be in your workplace, your business or relationships. Things are not progressing.

You look at your skills, degrees, and accolades. You have no evidence to back them up. If your life were a scale, your knowledge would weigh tons and your assets would weigh ounces.

So, what do you do? How do you stop going through the motions?

3 Ways To Escape The Rat Race

1- Gather And Store NEW Seeds

Have you ever seen how the squirrels are so busy during the warm seasons gathering seeds? Why? They are storing for the bad seasons when they can’t get out.

You need to do the same. In your case, I’m not talking about seeds. I’m talking about knowledge and wisdom.

Notice how I say to gather NEW seeds. It’s because I know you already have some knowledge. But during these times of unprecedented and disruptive change, you need to upgrade your mind. You need new skills.

Let’s face it. None of us were ready for this new world we are.

That’s why you must embrace change and pivot.

You cannot afford to be a dinosaur. You must renew your mind. You must become another you to deal with your current challenges. You have to start flooding your mind with new information.

Read Lots of Books.

Most people are not reading anymore. They prefer to either watch a short video online or read a blog post. The problem with that is not enough depth into the subject. And the information tends to be unorganized.

Let’s say you want to learn how to boost your self-esteem. You need to read a book that goes deep into the subject so you can take note and apply what you learn.

That said, I suggest you start reading personal development books. You want to start getting better so your situation can get better.

When you get better, everything gets better. Your business, performance in the workplace, and relationships automatically improve. It’s like magic!

Here are a few of the classic books on personal improvement I recommend:

Start with the following books:

Of course, I suggest you read my book Kick Your Excuses Goodbye. People from all over the world tell me how it transformed their lives.

Next, you want to start upgrading your current skills so you can stay relevant. Attend some seminars. Enroll in some online classes. There are many of them. Checkout www.lynda.com. There you can master pretty much anything you want.

Finally, get a coach or mentor. You are never too smart to get a coach. The best athletes in the world have many coaching. The billionaires and millionaires have coaches. The presidents of countries have coaches which they call advisors.

2- Protect and Defend Your Territory

As you begin to get better in every area of your life, there will be those who will try to deter and distract you.

I’m referring to the jealous people, the player haters, and the negative people in your environment.

Do not allow them to slow you down. Take an oath of allegiance to protect and defend yourself against those enemies. Don’t let them invade your territory

Think of it this way: If you work hard and save money, don’t let someone steal it. Your attitude, knowledge, and skills are your intellectual capitals. Protect them. Here’s how to protect them:

3- Clear Your Dead Stocks

Dead stocks are outdated merchandises in the retail industry. They diminish the value of the other merchandises. Therefore, they have to get rid of them.

It’s the same for you. You have friends and family members who are dead stocks. Get rid of them.

They are those who tend to put you down, discourage you, and make you feel less of yourself. Those people can destroy you physically and morally.

You need to surround yourself with cheerleaders, encouragers. And those who are fans. They are rooting for you. They want you to succeed. They are contributing to your wellbeing. They rekindle your spirit. They inspire you to dream bigger.

Simply put, do not keep around those you are barely tolerating. Make a list of all the people you spend time with and start checking off some names. Take a break from them to working on yourself and your dream.


I’m not talking about hating or getting even. No. In fact, you should never badmouth anybody.

Be kind about the way you begin to get rid of your dead stocks.

When you are in a conversation, and the name of the person comes up, always say something positive and uplifting.

What I’m trying to convey to you is this: Your situation will never improve until you improve. Change your circumstances require personal change. When you change, everything changes instantly.

However, you need to protect the new you from predators and miserable people.

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Never Be A Victim And Play The Blaming Game

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We all have suspicions. It’s in our nature. We tend to think someone or something is undermining our success.

We go from suspicions to blaming and excuses. If your business is struggling, you might believe that it’s the economy or the competition.

Blaming is a victim mindset. That’s giving away your power to act.

Many people come to me for coaching. They often come with a list of reasons for their situation.

They are stuck and frustrated because someone is doing it to them. In reality, nobody is doing anything.

It’s our reaction that determines how we feel about the events.

People are always going to be mean, inconsiderate, or jealous. But, that does not make them responsible for how we feel.

We have to accept responsibility for our results, good or bad.

So, if you don’t like the way things are going for you, take responsibility to change them. How do you do so?

The beginning of personal change is the end of blaming and excuses.

That’s right. It’s amazing what happens when you change. Everything changes instantly. Your situation improves.

The irony is, even when everything else remains constant, your condition will improve.

The economy is going to be bad or good. Your boss will behave the same. Your company will continue to introduce and implement new changes. The services or products you provide in your business will be the same.

In spite of all that, your finances get better. Your boss behaves differently. You embrace the changes in your workplace or personal life. You attract more customers to your business.

That’s is so awesome!

You don’t wake up and hope the economy would get better. You don’t complain, blame, or make excuses.

Instead, you start taking the different actions every day. You have a new philosophy or perspective on life.

You no longer curse your problems. You realize you cannot get to the next level of success without problems. Suddenly, challenges become your assets.

Simply put, personal change is the catalyst for significant improvement.

By the way, you might be thinking it’s hard to change. Right?

Au contraire, it’s a lot easier than you might imagine. It all begins with personal development.

Personal Development Unlocks The Door To Abundance.

You make a conscious decision to upgrade your mind. You do so, by reading lots of books, seeking out coaches and mentors.

If your relationship is heading in the wrong direction, you buy books on how to improve relationships.

If your business is going down, you get some books on marketing and finances. You attend some seminars. You hire a coach.

Do you see how easy it is?

Most people never grow. They continue to repeat one year over and over.

Yes, they may say they have been in business for 20 years. However, they have been practicing one year for twenty years.

In conclusion, I encourage you to start accepting personal responsibility right away. Decide to change your mindset. And watch how all the areas of your life will transform.

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3 Clever Ways To Accept Negative Feedback Without Feeling Insulted

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Receiving negative feedback is not easy. It can hurt your feelings and make you mad. If you are not careful, you can get hostile and even revengeful.

On the other hand, you cannot get to the next level of success without either positive or negative feedback.

Now, this is not about positive feedback. No one has a problem receiving positive feedback. It’s what we want to hear.

But, imagine what would happen if your destination is Miami, Florida and you are heading north on the highway?

Without the feedback you are moving in the wrong direction, you would never make any progress.

It all comes down to this:

If you are stuck and not progressing, it’s because you are not getting enough negative feedback. It’s because you are not aware of what you are doing right or wrong.

More often than not, arrogance is why most people resist negative feedback. Some people are too cocky to admit they may be wrong. They think they have all the answers.

When I first came to the United States of America, I had one pair of pants, two shirts, and five dollars. I didn’t speak any English.

I would never be able to learn English without constant negative feedback.

Some people would laugh at me when I butchered the English language. Others would politely correct me.

The simple truth is…

You cannot increase your effectiveness by leaps and bounds if you are not open to negative feedback.

Here Are 3 Simple Ways To Receive Negative Feedback Without Grudges
1- Swallow Your Pride

If you think you are your mistakes, it’s your ego playing tricks on you. Negative feedback doesn’t mean you are dumb or unintelligent.

Your value and self-importance will increase proportionally with the amount of negative feedback you gracefully embrace.

Let me explain what I mean.

The more you improve, the more valuable you become to society. And you cannot improve without negative or positive feedback. You need both.

Tell yourself, “I will gracefully accept or reject feedback without grudges. I’m not and will never be what others think about me.”

My ability to get on a stage, connect with any audience, and create a lasting impact is because of negative feedback.

When I first started speaking, I delivered a motivational keynote I thought was great. Then the feedback forms arrived in the mail.

One lady gave me a devastating review. I was hurt. My ego was bruised. It took me a moment to recover.

The lady said my speech was too narcissistic. It was all about me, me, and me.

I reevaluated the speech. She was right.

I hired a speaking coach to help me make the speech more about the audience.

As a result, my value as a speaker went up. I started charging more.

If I allowed my arrogance to stand in my way for too long, I would continue to be a lousy speaker.

2- Be Selective About Who You Ask

Let’s face it. Some people don’t give you negative feedback because they care.

Often, they have an agenda. They want to tear you down or deflate your self-esteem. Do not allow yourself to be their victim.

Don’t take it personally.

Mean people will always be mean. They will always be among us. Don’t let them distract you.

Yes, I’m advising to be more open to negative feedback. But, that doesn’t mean you have to own the feedback either. Just say, “Thank you.” Then, mentally toss it.

3-Ask A Future Based Question

Before I jump into the details, let me remind you that feedback is about the past. And you cannot undo the mistakes of the past.

To do better in the future, we must ask two questions:
a) How did I make this mistake?
b) What can I do to improve?

With that in mind, you need to ask the person giving the feedback for suggestions on how to do better in the future. If the individual cannot give you at least one or two ideas, be cautious.

Chances are, the person is not qualified to give you feedback, or there’s an agenda.

Think about it this way:

If others are thoughtful enough to give you some feedback, they should be thoughtful enough to think how you can better.

Ask this question: “Do you have any suggestions on how I can do better in the future?”

In fact, you can discard everything I shared with you so far and run with that question.

Take a big notebook and start asking suggestions on how you can improve. Write down every idea without judgment. Just say, “Thank you for sharing.”

Some suggestions will be precious, and others will be worthless.


There’s only one way to get to the next level of success in life. Ask for feedback.

Don’t wait for others to voluntarily share their feedback with you. It may never happen.

Proactively ask your boss, “How am I doing?” As soon as he or tells you, ask, “What can I do to improve?”

Ask the last question even if they tell you that you are doing great.

You say, “Thank you for letting me know I’m doing great. But, if there’s one thing I can do to get better, what would you suggest?”

If you are the manager, ask the same questions to all your team members.

Ask your husband, wife, children, friends, customers, and business partners the same questions.

Be a feedback collector.

But, beware of player haters. If you have any inkling that their intention is to bring you down, skip them. Or politely thank them.

Then let their feedback roll off you like water off a duck’s back. Move on!

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How To Give Negative Feedback Without Hard Feelings

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Have you ever had a time when you wanted to give a friend or a co-worker some negative feedback, but you are apprehensive? You don’t know how they are going to interpret it?

If you are in human resources, you may know exactly what I mean.

You toss and turn at night wondering if you should offer your feedback.

Has this ever happened to you?

Well, it doesn’t have to be that tough a decision. There’s a way to do so without friction or hard feelings.

If you sincerely care about people, you should face your fear and give them negative feedback with a compassionate heart.

Let me share with you why.

We are experiencing some unprecedented changes. This world is radically different.

We cannot afford to remain the same and expect to survive and thrive. It’s going to require a new you to overcome today’s challenges.

We must reinvent ourselves. The question is, how to do you do so? What would it take? The answer is simple:

Honest feedback!

Yes, to be a better leader or manager in the new era, you need constant feedback. That’s how we improve.

You must realize that no matter how great you are, there’s room for improvement. Feedback is the mother of innovation and reinvention.

Yes, I know some people are arrogant. They think they know everything. That’s sad.

Arrogance is the brutal enemy of personal and professional growth and progress.

Those who think they have all the answers are fools.

Mastery is impossible without constant feedback.

Let me share with a simple formula to share negative feedback.

The Secret To Sharing Negative Feedback Without Offending Others

The formula is PSP. P is for Praise. S is for Share. And P is for Praise again. Now, let me break it down for you.

1- P is for Praise

People can be very sensitive. The reality is, we all have an ego. We can get easily get hurt.

You must praise and elevate before you anything negative. Think of it like driving on the road and you are coming up to a big pothole.

You have to prepare yourself by slowing down and proceeding with caution.

The negative feedback is the pothole. The praise is your way of proceeding with caution.

You simply say something like, “Suzie, you’ve been a fantastic member of our teams. I love your positive energy. Last month we were late and almost missed our deadline. But, you rescued us.”

Notice the specificity here.

There’s Magic In Specificity

It’s not enough to say, “You are great.” Tell the person specifically what makes him or her great. The more specific you are, the more impactful it will be.

You are boosting the person self-esteem before you give the negative feedback.

2- S is for Share

Now you are ready to deliver the negative feedback. You say, “There’s an issue we need to work on.” Do you see how I use the word we?

Now, you are ready to share the issue. But there is just one small catch.

Always Disassociate The Person From The Negative Behavior

The person is never the behavior. I’m sure we all have issues. But bad habits don’t make us bad people.

Unfortunately, most times our relationships are with the bad behavior instead of the person.

As an example, let’s say a person is a liar. We tend to develop a relationship with the liar. We listen to the liar. So, we know a person for twenty or forty years. But, never actually never meet the person.

All right, how do you disassociate the person from the negative behavior? How do you let the individual know his or her poor performance is not who they are?

Gesture away when you share the negative feedback. When you do so, you automatically send a signal to the person. You are saying the person is not the behavior.

Although, I strongly suggest you emphasize it. Gesture away. Then you say, “This is not like you.”

3- P is for Praise

Okay, now that you share what’s on your mind, it’s time to elevate again. Here’s my best advice to you.

Never Walk Away From Any Conversation Without Leaving The Person On A High Note.

Here’s something to keep in mind: When you praise, you elevate.

When you share the negative feedback, you tend to bring the person down. That’s why you end on a high note.

The high note is much better if you future pace the person. Let me explain.

Feedback is the past. To move forward, we have to focus on the future.

You ask a future based question by saying, “By the way, what is your vision? Where do you see yourself in this company? Is there a position you would like to occupy in the future?”

Once you hear the reply, say, “Excellent! I can see you as the regional manager. I’m ready to help you. Let me know if can share any resources or information with you.”

Can you imagine how great that feels? That’s your way of communicating you sincerely care.


Use this PSP formula in your workplace and personal live. The impact is the same.

Maybe it’s your best friend who has been behaving weird lately. It may be your kids or significant other.

With this approach, you never have to feel awkward again. In fact, your friends, family members or co-worker will think the world of you.

Simply put, I’m arming you with a powerful psychological weapon. Except that in this case, you use this weapon to build instead of destroying.

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Rene Godefroy
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