Never Give Up – Don’t Listen to The Haters

Haters Will Make You

I came to the US broke, unable to speak English, with zero confidence in myself.

I had only $5, two shirts, and one pair of pants in the tiny suitcase you see in the picture. I was extremely shy and timid.

Because of my inability to speak the language, some people assumed I was stupid.

As a janitor at the 163rd Mall in Miami, I freaked out whenever I would see a security guard. I was afraid they might working for immigration.

One day, I saw a girl that I had gone to school with in Haiti. She looked the other way so that other people would not see her talking to a janitor.

I went to McDonald’s hoping to get a job to pick up trash in the parking lot. They turned me down because I couldn’t speak English. Go figure! I didn’t know the trashcans spoke English.

Later, I went to Total Bank in South Miami and begged them to let me wash their cars. After many rejections, one man said yes. I did a fantastic job!

Suddenly, I became the “car guy” in the parking lot. I remember looking up at the top floors in between car washes and saying to myself, “I would love to go up there as a janitor.”

I went to McDonald to get a job to pick up trash in the parking lot. I was turned down because I couldn’t speak English. Go figure! I didn’t know the trashcans spoke English.

Later, I went to Total Bank in South Miami. I begged the people to let me wash their cars. After many rejections, one man said yes. I did a fantastic job!

Suddenly, I became the car guy in the parking lot. I remember looking up at the top floors in between car washes and said to myself, “I would love to go up there as a janitor.”

Four years later I’m now in Atlanta. I managed to get at the Kmart warehouse loading boxes. One year later, I got my CNA (certified nursing assistant) license.

I worked as a companion for a Jewish man. After he died, his family help me get a job as a doorman at the Waverly Renaissance Hotel. I was there for 14 years.

As I was parking the cars, I would notice some motivational and business books in the back seats. I bought them and devoured every word on the pages.

One of them mentioned speaking for a living. I said to myself, “I want to try that speaking thing. Why not?”

I told a guy who was my supervisor that I was going to become a motivational speaker and write a book. Well, it turned out that he was a hater.

He said, “With your Haitian accent? Man, no corporation would pay to listen to you. You have no credentials.”

I told him I was not asking for his permission and approval to be a motivational speaker and author. God already approved me the day I was born.

However, his stupid remarks triggered a lot of doubts and fears in my head anyway.

Fortunately, I saw this motivational speaker on TV motivating people in this country. I said to myself, “Shoot! If Jerry Springer can motivate Americans, I can do it too.”

Fast forward today. I am the author of three books. And one them won the Writers Digest Awards. Indeed, many Fortune 500 corporations have paid to motivate and boost the morale of their employees.

A few years ago, the Napoleon Hill Foundation booked me to speak at their annual event. Guess where that event was held?

At the McDonald’s Headquarters! Yep, the guy who couldn’t get a job to pick up trash at the parking lot of one of their stores in Miami.

Oh, by the way, the Chairwoman of Total Bank heard saw me on television talking about washing cars in the parking.

She called and invited to speak at their breakfast for the senior leaders.

Yep! The event was held on the very top floor. I’m having goosebumps as I typed these words.

I took the time to write this long post to inspire you and stir your soul. If you happen to be in a comfort zone, I want to disturb you and disrupt your complacency.

Don’t ever let the haters and losers predict your future. You don’t need their approval and permission. They are not your makers.

Instead, get rid of them. While you are at it, purge some so-called friends as well. Go on the journey alone if you have to. The thing is, you won’t be alone for too long. There are plenty of winners waiting to cheer you up. Don’t look back.

Finally, I’m not sure what’s the top floor for you. But, here’s what I am 100% sure of: With hard work, resilience, and positive expectancy, you are guaranteed to get there.

Don’t doubt yourself. It doesn’t matter how old you are. It doesn’t matter how long you have been trying. Keep pressing on! Hold on to your dream! Don’t give up! Keep climbing!

How To Break Bad Habits And Create Powerful Ones – A Surefire Way To Do So

How to break bad habits and create better ones so you can achieve the success you want. We all have some bad habits that are preventing us from realizing our dreams. And those habits unconsciously creep on us. By the time we notice the habit, it’s already been formed.

Many people struggle in life and at work because of the habits that sneak up on them along the way. Have you ever wonder why someone is so successful in the workplace while others remain stuck in one position at the bottom of the ladder? It’s because that person develops some terrific habits of productivity.

The bad news is, it’s really hard to break those bad habits. Yes, it’s easy to form them. After all, we were present when we created them. There was no pain involved.

On the other hand, a good habit is rarely created on its own. It takes efforts to form them consciously. Fortunately, there’s a proven and scientific way to break those bad habits. That is exactly what this video is about.

Okay, why is breaking bad habits is so critical? Well, think about your future self. The habits you create now will most definitely dictate the quality of your life tomorrow.

Whether you agree with me or not, you are going to be 50, 60, or 70 years old. There’s no way around it. You will get old. You need to be kind to that 60 years old you. Be considerate and thoughtful. Be mindful.

If not, you will eventually end up living in regrets. You will be disappointed. You will live with a life full of resentments.

Nothing is sadder to meet a grumpy old man full of regrets moaning, complaining, and making excuses. He is blaming people, things, and circumstances. It’s the wife’s fault. It’s the government. It’s the boss. I mean one excuse after another.

How Habits Are Formed

To form a habit, it takes a trigger, behavior, and a reward. The trigger prompts you to take an action or behave a certain way. Then you feel good or great depending on the action. Every behavior has a good intention. Yes, I do mean every behavior. Even when the behavior is evil, the intention of the behavior is to reward the person.

There are two kinds of triggers. There’s the hot trigger. There’s the cold trigger.

The hot trigger is associated with instant gratification. Simply put, you get a reward instantly. You open the refrigerator and you see the ice cream. That’s a hot trigger. You then consume the ice cream. Then you feel good. You get rewarded.

How about a cold trigger? Now, we are talking about delayed gratification. You get the reward later. Let’s say you are driving and you hear an advertisement on the radio for something you are interested in. The announcer mentions the website.

Well, you cannot go to the site because you don’t have a computer and internet access right there. That’s a cold trigger. You will take the action and get the reward later.

The Habit Loop

So, the sequence of the trigger, routine or behavior, and reward is called the habit loop. It always happens in the same sequence without fail. Do you see how is you can create some bad habits without being aware of it?

How to Break Bad Habits

Okay, we talked about how we form those bad habits. How do we break them for good?

The answer is easy. Remove the triggers. Don’t put ice cream in your refrigerator. Make sure your environment is without hot triggers.

How to Form Good Habits

To form good habits, you need to learn how to turn your cold triggers into hot triggers. As I just mentioned, if you remove the alcohol or ice cream, they automatically become hot triggers.

Now, you have to get dressed, get in your car, and fight traffic to get the ice cream. All those steps might discourage you. Also, the reward is no longer instant. Since we know the brain is wired for instant gratification, it will find something else to reward it.

Keep this in mind, this is your real life. You are not on this earth to rehearse this life. Some people live as if they are coming back to do it for real. That’s pretty sad. That’s why I’m imploring to start breaking those bad habits as soon as you.

3 Simple Ways To Stop Jerks From Ruining Your Positive Attitude In The Workplace

3 Simple Ways To Stop Jerks From Ruining Your Positive Attitude In The Workplace

The weekend is over. It’s Monday. It’s time to go back to work.  Bu you have this sinking feeling because is becoming more and more draining. Some jerks there continue to put a damper on your mood and attitude.

I’m talking about those that say mean things to you in front of others. Those that tend to stab you behind your back.

Hopefully this is not your boss I’m describing here.

But whether it is or not, you don’t feel like facing those jerks one more day. That reminds me when I was a kid in school in Haiti.

The teachers at my school had the permission to whip the students. Many of them took liberal advantage of it. One of them was my elementary teacher. He was so mean that I dreaded going to go his class for the school year.

He would often use a whip made of cowhide to scold us. I mean this thing can sink in your skin and cut you open.

Now, mind you, I was a very good boy. I didn’t get into trouble. But for whatever reason, when the teacher gets upset and frustrated, he would take it out on the entire row of students.

I used to dread going to school on Mondays. I would feel a knot in my stomach. I’m sure it’s the same for when you wake to go to work some bullies in the workplace. Some co-workers can be mean.

The jerks’ attitude and words are like a cowhide whip. They can slice your hearts open. (more…)