How to Get People to Cooperate and Comply to Your Requests Without Being Pushy




How would you like to more cooperation from your team members, teenage kids, or acquaintances? Is it possible to get people say yes without being pushy?

The answer is yes. There’s a way to get others to do your bidding or comply with your requests. Also, they will never know your strategy. You are about to learn how to do so in this video.

However, I urge to use this tool responsibly. It’s not intended for manipulation. It’s merely a way to get others to cooperate with you to get things done.

So, what I want to share with you is a magic phrase you can use to bypass the conscious mind and make the request to the subconscious mind. Here’s the phrase:

You don’t have to…

It’s that simple. You tell the person he or she doesn’t have to do what you are asking. Here’s why this is so powerful:

As human beings, the one thing we value and cherish above anything else is the freedom to choose. Any time someone tries to take it away from us, we are ready to fight.

That is why an entire nation would bend together and risk their lives in front of tanks and machine guns to overthrow a dictatorship government. When it comes to freedom no one is willing to negotiate.

Breakups happen in relationships because one partner is trying to dominate or take away the freedom of the other. Kids rebel because they feel like their parents are taking away their freedom.

When you tell a person he or she does not have to do something, you automatically let them know their freedom is not at stake. That’s how you get more compliance from others.

This is essentially one of the powerful tools for persuasion and influence. Simply put, it’s reverse psychology. Try it, and you will notice a drastic difference in the way people respond to you when you ask for a favor.

By the way, when you combine the word favor and this strategy, your odds will increase drastically.

Think about it this way, the word favor implies the person is not obligated to do what you are asking. Do you see why this can be so effective?

Let’s see how you can use this in a real-life situation. Suppose you are the leader in your company. Corporate just sent a memo to you about the need to have all your employees on deck tomorrow. They just launched a marketing campaign. They are expecting an influx of new customers.

One of your team members is supposed to be off on that day. You call a meeting with the employee. You say something like…

“I just received a memo from corporate. They are expecting a flood of new customers to come in tomorrow. They want everyone to be present. Sorry, it’s your off day. But we need to you to show up.”

How well do think that would go? Do you think that’s demanding instead of asking? Of course, it is demanding. Chances are, you will a no. Your team member will fight your demand.

Let’s see how you approach this differently. You tell the employee…

“I just received a memo from corporate. The VP of operations or marketing is expecting a flood of new customers. They want me to be fully staffed. I know tomorrow is your day off. But, I need you to do me a favor. Can you come tomorrow? You don’t have to. But if you did, it would mean the world to the team and me.”

Do you see how that would be different? You are asking. You are not imposing or demanding. You are leaving the person with the freedom to choose.

If you are the head of the human resources department, this strategy can be very useful to you. HR professionals often are the people who get to make a lot of unusual requests, especially during times of difficult change in the workplace.

Let me know what you think.

Conflict Resolution: An Insanely Simple Way To Resolve Drama In The Workplace

Have you ever had to put up with some drama or office politics in the workplace? Is it with your boss or a coworker?

Let’s see; you spend about eight hours in the workplace for five days a week. That means you spend more hours with your coworkers and bosses than with your own family. Right?

Don’t you think you deserve peace of mind during your work hours? I think so.

It’s all about teamwork. It’s about getting along with your coworkers or bosses to get the job done. When there are fighting and tension at work, nobody wins. Morale is low. Productivity goes down.

Now, there are many books and training out there on conflict resolution. But, I don’t believe conflicts are that difficult to resolve.

With this simple strategy I share in the video, you probably don’t need any conflict resolution training, mediation, or outside intervention.

In most cases, we can solve a conflict by acknowledging there’s a problem and we need to resolve it. Simply put, communication is key. The silent attitude is not a solution.

Conflict or bullying is about pushing and resisting. People are wired to push and resist. They need conflicts to thrive. When there is nothing to push, they feel weak and powerless.

Admittedly, we need to conflicts to grow, learn and expand. However, when the conflicts create too much stress and drama, we need to do something about it.

So, don’t wait for the situation to get better on its own. Take the responsibility to resolve the issue.

My nephew came to me for advice to deal with his aggressive and pushy boss. I shared a strategy with him. Three days later he sent me a text message to let me know the boss made a 360-degree turn.

That’s exactly what I want to share with you here so you can resolve all your conflicts.

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Point #1 Drive: How To Tap Into Your Personal Power

Here’s the first D Rene shares with his audiences during his keynote presentation. In order to stay in the race and thrive during turbulent times of change, you must find the drive to keep pressing.

The amazing thing is, you do not need to look for DRIVE out there. It’s already within you. It’s your God-given gift. In this video, Rene shares with you how to tap into power internal power to win during times of tough challenges.

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Point #2 Duplicate: How To Find The Right Resources To Get Unstuck

There are times when you have the drive to keep pressing on. But somehow, you feel stuck. You just don’t know what to do. Your knowledge seems to be limited. That’s when you embrace the concept of duplication.

When you think you reach your limit, you start modeling success. Pause your ego and ask someone for help. Study others who are succeeding. The reality is, you already have the know-how inside of you. When you learn to duplicate, you are simply looking for winning ideas to spark your internal genius.

No matter what you are going through, millions have already gone through it. They figured out how to overcome your particular challenge. You can reverse engineer their success. You can do so through books, coaches, or mentors.

Don’t reinvent the wheel. Success leaves clues. Find them. In this video, I reveal to you how to tap into the vast reservoir of knowledge that is waiting for you.

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How To Easily Get Rid Of Bad Habits And Replace Them With Good Ones

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As you might already know, the world is changing at a rapid pace. We all need to make some changes to catch up and stay relevant.

That means we have to get rid of some bad habits and form new ones.

My guess is, just like anyone else, you probably tried to break some bad habits in the past. But you were not successful. That can be very frustrating.

You want to improve. You want to get better. But somehow, something is pulling you back. You simply can’t let go of some habits.

Maybe you want to get your body in shape. You want to lose 20 pounds, start a new business, or write a book. But some bad behaviors keep you from getting results.

Now, is there a quick and surefire way to once and for all zap a bad habit? The answer is, no! There’s not.

As you might already know, bad habits are like a comfortable bed in the winter. It’s easy to get in and extremely hard to get out.

That said, the only way to break a bad habit is to install a new and opposite one. The brain hates a vacuum. You cannot get rid of a bad habit and leave the space empty.

Let’s say you are the type of person who improperly interrupts others during a conversation. If you want to correct that behavior, you have to replace it with the opposite.

But here’s the kicker:

Replacing a bad habit with a good one requires lots of repetitions over time.

That’s the part most people don’t fully comprehend. That’s why they get stuck doing the wrong things over and over.

Let me break down what I mean for you.

Too Much Motivation Is Not Always Good

Most of us have big dreams and lofty goals. After all, our natural tendency is to seek expansion.

So, if you have big goals, I want to congratulate you. That’s awesome!

But, those lofty goals and dreams could be what’s preventing you from breaking bad habits and forming new ones.

That doesn’t make sense. Does it? Alright, let me clarify.

Let’s say you feel out of shape. You set a goal to lose 20 pounds. What do you do?

First, you feel a surge of motivation. You immediately join the gym.

The first week, you spend 3 hours per day for five days in the gym. You do the same for the second, and the third week. Then you are exhausted. You are in excruciating pain.

You look at yourself in the mirror, and you don’t notice any difference. The little voice in your head starts saying, “This is too hard?”

You revolt. You quit.

What’s the matter? What happens?

Stop Fighting Yourself

Too much motivation to do too much too fast will create a tug of war within you.

Have you ever heard that too much of anything could be dangerous? In French, they say, “l’exces en tout nuit.”

The translation is, excess in everything is bad. When you are too motivated, you tend to overextend yourself. And that triggers discouragement.

I know some people can break bad habits cold turkey. They have the willpower to do so. But, for most of us mortals, it’s not that easy.

Okay, if too much motivation is a problem, how do you break bad habits and form good ones?

As I mentioned before, the best way to break bad habits is to replace them with good ones. Here’s how:

Tiny Adjustments Lead To Permanent Change

You don’t get too excited. You motivate yourself just enough to take a few simple steps daily until they become habits.

You want to create new patterns in your brain.

Motivation will get you going. But, it’s ultimately your incremental and daily habits that create lasting change.

Small doses of motivation are way better than a big surge.

Instead of rushing to the gym and punish yourself, set a goal to walk around the blocks for 30 minutes every day. Set a goal to do 20 pushups every day. Then go to the gym three times a week for one hour.

I’m all for losing 20 poundings. But don’t get too emotional.

If you want to write a book, don’t pound on the keyboard for 8 hours a day for one week. That’s too much motivation.

Set a goal to write 2 hours daily. Focus on writing one chapter per week. As the saying goes, “Inch by inch, life’s a cinch. Yard by yard, life’s hard.”

I used to run half marathons. I discovered a way to push through. I started focusing on the next mile instead of the rest of the race.

I tricked my mind to think I’m running one mile 12 times. That worked like a charm.

The secret to forming good habits is to repeat small changes over and over until they are automatic.

Conclusion…

All of us have habits we are not too happy about. The good news is, you have the capacity to zap them for good. The brain is plastic. We can mold it to serve our purpose.

If you don’t like the results you are getting in life, change the bad habits or behaviors. Start implement tiny changes.

Disruptive changes are the results of years of compounding little improvements. They disrupt our lives because we are not paying close attention.

I encourage you to set a goal to start repeating small changes daily until they become unbreakable habits that make you proud. In no time, your new and good behaviors will shock others. 

If bad habits were keeping you from getting a promotion or attracting what you want, you now know how to remove those barriers. 

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Rene Godefroy
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Self-help Expert, And
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How To Give Negative Feedback Without Hard Feelings

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Have you ever had a time when you wanted to give a friend or a co-worker some negative feedback, but you are apprehensive? You don’t know how they are going to interpret it?

If you are in human resources, you may know exactly what I mean.

You toss and turn at night wondering if you should offer your feedback.

Has this ever happened to you?

Well, it doesn’t have to be that tough a decision. There’s a way to do so without friction or hard feelings.

If you sincerely care about people, you should face your fear and give them negative feedback with a compassionate heart.

Let me share with you why.

We are experiencing some unprecedented changes. This world is radically different.

We cannot afford to remain the same and expect to survive and thrive. It’s going to require a new you to overcome today’s challenges.

We must reinvent ourselves. The question is, how to do you do so? What would it take? The answer is simple:

Honest feedback!

Yes, to be a better leader or manager in the new era, you need constant feedback. That’s how we improve.

You must realize that no matter how great you are, there’s room for improvement. Feedback is the mother of innovation and reinvention.

Yes, I know some people are arrogant. They think they know everything. That’s sad.

Arrogance is the brutal enemy of personal and professional growth and progress.

Those who think they have all the answers are fools.

Mastery is impossible without constant feedback.

Let me share with a simple formula to share negative feedback.

The Secret To Sharing Negative Feedback Without Offending Others

The formula is PSP. P is for Praise. S is for Share. And P is for Praise again. Now, let me break it down for you.

1- P is for Praise

People can be very sensitive. The reality is, we all have an ego. We can get easily get hurt.

You must praise and elevate before you anything negative. Think of it like driving on the road and you are coming up to a big pothole.

You have to prepare yourself by slowing down and proceeding with caution.

The negative feedback is the pothole. The praise is your way of proceeding with caution.

You simply say something like, “Suzie, you’ve been a fantastic member of our teams. I love your positive energy. Last month we were late and almost missed our deadline. But, you rescued us.”

Notice the specificity here.

There’s Magic In Specificity

It’s not enough to say, “You are great.” Tell the person specifically what makes him or her great. The more specific you are, the more impactful it will be.

You are boosting the person self-esteem before you give the negative feedback.

2- S is for Share

Now you are ready to deliver the negative feedback. You say, “There’s an issue we need to work on.” Do you see how I use the word we?

Now, you are ready to share the issue. But there is just one small catch.

Always Disassociate The Person From The Negative Behavior

The person is never the behavior. I’m sure we all have issues. But bad habits don’t make us bad people.

Unfortunately, most times our relationships are with the bad behavior instead of the person.

As an example, let’s say a person is a liar. We tend to develop a relationship with the liar. We listen to the liar. So, we know a person for twenty or forty years. But, never actually never meet the person.

All right, how do you disassociate the person from the negative behavior? How do you let the individual know his or her poor performance is not who they are?

Gesture away when you share the negative feedback. When you do so, you automatically send a signal to the person. You are saying the person is not the behavior.

Although, I strongly suggest you emphasize it. Gesture away. Then you say, “This is not like you.”

3- P is for Praise

Okay, now that you share what’s on your mind, it’s time to elevate again. Here’s my best advice to you.

Never Walk Away From Any Conversation Without Leaving The Person On A High Note.

Here’s something to keep in mind: When you praise, you elevate.

When you share the negative feedback, you tend to bring the person down. That’s why you end on a high note.

The high note is much better if you future pace the person. Let me explain.

Feedback is the past. To move forward, we have to focus on the future.

You ask a future based question by saying, “By the way, what is your vision? Where do you see yourself in this company? Is there a position you would like to occupy in the future?”

Once you hear the reply, say, “Excellent! I can see you as the regional manager. I’m ready to help you. Let me know if can share any resources or information with you.”

Can you imagine how great that feels? That’s your way of communicating you sincerely care.

Conclusion

Use this PSP formula in your workplace and personal live. The impact is the same.

Maybe it’s your best friend who has been behaving weird lately. It may be your kids or significant other.

With this approach, you never have to feel awkward again. In fact, your friends, family members or co-worker will think the world of you.

Simply put, I’m arming you with a powerful psychological weapon. Except that in this case, you use this weapon to build instead of destroying.

motivational keynote speaker

Rene Godefroy
Legendary Motivational Speaker,
Self-help Expert, And
Humanitarian